Why do we refuse to listen to other people?

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Prompt: There is usually a kernel of truth in the words Oscar Wilde puts in the mouth of his most outrageous characters – they wouldn’t be funny otherwise. One such gem that is worth pondering is: The only thing to do with good advice is to pass it on. It is never of any use to oneself.

Assignment: Is it true that when we most need advice we are least willing to listen to it? Or is good advice always welcome? Plan your response, and then write an essay…

We live in the unpredictable world. Life around us is very dynamic and active. Some things can appear suddenly and bring troubles to us. There are people, who love us and take care of us. They do not wish us anything bad. However, we try to avoid their pieces of advice sometimes at any price. Why do we do that? Usually, there is no reason for that. Maybe, we do that because of our selfishness, foolishness or overconfidence but the fact remains. That is why I prepared the essay to discover this issue. We are going to figure out the reason of this conduct. Can you change yourself?

When I get into a big problem, I usually do not want to listen to somebody’s tips. I am irritated and could not clarify my mind, but when I am calm I think that somebody’s advice is very appropriate in some kinds of situation. However, the need for someone’s advice is still questionable. Let us find out whether they are needed at all?

Therefore, on the one hand, there are some events in our lives, which we would rather avoid. In these cases, we really need an advice of other people. They can help you to solve the difficult question and carry out some tasks without any problems. People, who hold this view, believe that good advice is always welcomed. They do not want to lose chances to figure out the opinion of others about any issues.

On the other hand, there is also another type of people, who believe that no one in this world cannot help them. Of course, they understand that adults have more experience and have a greater knowledge base, but this type of people thinks that only they can help themselves and I have to admit that I agree with them. Only a person who has experienced a particular situation can adequately and even a little objectively evaluate it and make the right decision.

Although I belong to the second type, I do not think that you have to ignore other people. You should not think that their words worth nothing. I follow the principle that surrounding people can help me and I usually try to listen to their advice. However, these tips are not necessarily for performance, I can use them or can refuse to do that. They have the only advisory in nature and only I have to solve an issue. For example, I can recommend you to follow this principle in your future life, but you can take this information into account or can just ignore it. It is your life and your choice.

In addition, the experience is a good teacher, but it sends in terrific bills. That is why it will be better for you at least to learn from the mistakes of others if you do not want to listen to the advice of other people. First of all, you should put yourself in a fictional situation based on stories of other people.

Second, you should try to analyze these situations and try to solve troubles to please all subjects of the conflict. When you simulate these situations, you will know what you should do in the future if you will get in the similar trouble. Finally, I recommend you to remember all decisions that seem to you the most successful. Then you should use them in practice and avoid terrible mistakes which later regret. You are not obliged to use this advice in your ordinary life, but most wise and successful people usually try to learn from the mistakes of other people than from their own.

Therefore, the problem of public opinion is very important and this question will be discussed for a long period. Moreover, I think that controversies about it would be never completed and this problem will remain unfinished and the result will depend on the individual opinion of people. However, it is your life. You should make the choice on your own and only then follow chosen way. You can listen to other opinions and try to stick to them or you can just control your fate without any obligation to follow somebody’s advice. Choose carefully!